I am in that stage of my life where everyone around me is getting married, having babies, buying houses, and blah blah blah so on. You get it. While I try not to let myself get caught up in the hype, it’s hard not to think about what your life will be like when you reach that point. Not as much about the marriage and kids part for me, but instead about my future house. Will I get my dream cottage on the lake, where I start my morning with a sunrise paddle then drink coffee on my porch before heading up to my in-home office to work? What town will it be in? Will the bed be a wood or wrought iron frame? I am probably a long ways away from owning a house, but whenever I go to a housewarming party or see one of those cliche “sold” first home pics on Facebook, I can’t help but wonder about it.
Naturally I’ve talked to people about it, and it’s always interesting to hear about what different people consider their dream home, and understand what – to them – gives quality to their lives.
This has been a topic of conversation between Austin and I recently as well. For him, quality of life is moving to the middle of the state (ew) to be closer to his job, where we can get more land and space because it’s cheaper than living near the city. It’s having financial stability, and setting goals to work towards each time one is completed; checking them off one by one.
To me, quality of life is being able to be near the ones I love, in a place that I love. It’s adventure, and nature, and red wine at the end of a long day with my girlfriends who live up the street. It’s being able to wake up and do my work without having to sit in my car or on a train for two hours.
As you can tell, we don’t agree on what we each consider an ideal lifestyle. While I don’t want to move out to the middle of nowhere Massachusetts, I get that you have to make sacrifices in relationships. Especially for people like Austin, who are so genuine and kind and giving. Neither of us have really given much leeway in terms of where we want to move when the day comes, though we’ve both expressed (multiple times) exactly what we want. Regardless of that, what really gives my life quality is the people in it.
So for the time being, I’m focusing on the now; enjoying our time in our little in-law apartment and paying down my loans. When the time comes that we can afford to move, compromises will have to be made. As much as I’d love to buy a house near my family and friends, that’s something I’m willing to sacrifice to give Austin quality of life as well. It’s not the house that truly matters, but instead the person in it with you that makes it a home.
Needless to say, the lakefront property thing is non-negotiable.